I am worried and sad for three issues which are...
ISSUE 1
I always listen to what people said and I swear, I always judge and look down to the person, which majority people comment at him. Few days ago, I met him and we had lunch together. Sincerely there is a problem in the group presentation and I told him that my group is so unhappy with his characteristic being a group member. My group blames that he did not work as a good group member to sort out problems; co-operative and also always have another contact with other people from the other group.
When he listened to what I am talking, I can see his face is calm and he willing to accept my group member comment. Later on, he replied me, “Kelvin, I am sorry that I didn’t done my part, but I am hereby sincerely to tell you that – is there any problem if I always contact with my friend from the other group then?, and it is my personal related, which doesn’t bring any bad effect to our group. Although everyone in the group knows that the person I contacted with, most probably he is wrong, but sometimes he is right. I just take it as a personal and I never ever wanted to destroy our group you know?” So when I listened to him, I finally understand what is going on and I shouldn’t blame him or taking part together with my group member to blame him as well, without investigating the true situation.
Lesson which I learn on that day:
never ever judge people on their bad characteristic, but must be more understanding, and if feels uncomfortable with it, I should seek the person for his/her review.
ISSUE 2
I am sick of people talking bad about me, but then he always thinks he is smart enough. But then, “hey, look over yourself too”. Do you like people to call you another name that or if someone tends to make fun of you? Think about it. Let’s see what I am actually quite upset with it.
Yes, I admitted that I am fat, so what? “Kelvin, why you sit like this? ,like not enough of space for you? That’s why lah, eat more sushi and look, you as fat as the lady”. I replied nothing, but quite upset and I just ignored. FYI, if I keep silent doesn’t mean that I like the way you talk. But, I am giving you a chance for you to understand yourself. Next time when you want to talk, you must think and look at the situation. (Hint: Yes, the lady is fat, I have no space to sit, only a little bit. But he shouldn’t talk so loud till the lady heard about it. At last the lady stand, and quite pissed off and disembark at the next stop.)
“Always do assignment last minute and gain high marks summore”. Hey, doesn’t it badly affected to you? If yes, tell me why. I always receive such comment or actually “are you insulting me for being doing last minute work?”. And yes, thanks for your concern today asking me about my assignment progress. Yes, I haven’t worked it out and it doesn’t mean I don’t want to submit or I am scared of lecturer’s complaining to me. But then, please mind your language. I would like to apologise if I did ask you to shut up. Don’t you feel weird regarding on your reply? Please think again. Your reply was to ask me not to talk so much. Did I? I only replied to you that I haven’t started. So what is happening now? Tell me! You want to hurt my feeling as you wish? If you were unhappy with me, come and talk nicely to me. I can consider about it.
Lesson which I learn on that day:
I think, I should be tolerate, but I still don’t understand why he want to treat me like this.
ISSUE 3
Opppsss!!! This is really my mistake. I accidentally showed your photo to someone. Hereby I would like to sincerely apologise to you. Instead of showing photos, it turns out to become a fun-making situation. Again, I would like to say sorry about the matter. Michael, maafkan hang… Hang tak bermaksud lain untuk memalukan kamu…
Lesson which I learn on that day:
Kelvin, don’t be so playful. Sometimes, over action/play, you never know good or bad things will happen.